Helahel

HIJRA

28 - Sunni

malaysia, Malaysia

Jun 26, 2019 15:14

Assalamualaikum

why i join this site? many reason
alot must b asking this questions >
why dont just get engaged to someone nearby?or arrangement?
u see wht matter to me is can he b that deep true love? can take care of u dunya akhirah n faithful till end , together on ups n down?hw he going to take care of u when ure dying?can he still be with u, faithful and take care of your needs when ur sick or pain or paralyse or even when losing ability ? (if you are this unic person, come to text me 😊 IF U ARE NOT DONT DARE TO TEXT ME btw
we hope for good things,dua allah bless us with good health nauzubillah for bad things etc inshaallah im that kind who is able to do that much inshaallah)
other question to b considered can take care of in law like your own parents? do u feel convince in that man? if u were with a person who live nearby everything will be easier but wht if he does not fit wht u want or not a true love uve been waiting or looking
so why dont get to knw a person seriously n at the same time u can learn culture, language, food, etc, try knowing other who was raise in different places,different culture , if was in same country or same race thats also fine


i cant reply to all messages it depends
the basic things he must have
MUST -
virgin, never been engaged, never been married, conservative does not like to hang out with female acquitances unless it is compulsory for working matters only
practising muslim, can recite quran, fast, pray 5 times, not a smoker, never been in jailed, not bald, not a thieft not a criminal
i am not hoping for a perfect man as long as he is learning n trying
im not hoping for a perfect man but he must be a practising muslim
not a wild person, mentally mature, gentle, understanding, supportive, not being judgemental, wont make joke about others weakness, dont like to talk abt money or car
nvr put vehicle/car as his profile
love to travel, he can accept people for who they are bcs he is understanding n can adapt to it, very mature, if he was living in a modern city he is so humble can adapt to village surrounding n rags,

im very5 faithful n only want one man so a faithful emotional woman like me deserve a very faithful one, this character is in his blood already, FAITHFUL..VERY FAITHFUL.. i want a man who no matter wht, distance,or whoever he meet wont change his heart at all, he is wise
i only want one man im not interested with multiple

someone really mature n responsible
love to teach his partner
the type who can help partner to speak better english does not mind if partner need time to speak better when it just a matter of practices and does not mind to help in that matter he can accept and adapt to that , i dont mind wht race he is ( the same nation also good)
india, bangladesh,jews, iran,iraq, afghanistan dont text me (not about racism ) u respect me i respect u so pls dont send angry messages i wont read if u come to send angry messages Alhamdulillah may allah forgive my sin throw it on u u let it be on u but all ur rewards of good deeds will be mine this is my dua , may Allah exchange it ameen

each other help to increase iman
not the type relies on woman
can help me get to jannah not to influence me into bad things
wont easily get influenced by friends or surrounding AND wont lose value bcs he is wise mature and has principle n really holding into it, a real muslim, a real gentleman (not unresponsible jerk who just wanna play emotion, respect women) sunni
not someone who will get me into other probs due to his behaviour
will deal with me in very considerate way this is already apart of his character, honest and considerate, caring
please dont text me if ure the type who easily get angry speak harsh calling woman bad things call woman stupid (that happened before i was refused to share pic, then he called me stupid, also there is a man called me stupid just bcs we hv different opinion) may allah throw my sins to them n give all their rewards of good deeds to me

i want someone honest but not the type who speak too direct that can hurt feeling
very protective wanted me to be happy not to be hurtful
very caring,very loving, pls dont pretend u care about me if u don
a man's heart can b reflected through hw he treat u so dont say u care but act differently dont use this lame method women are smart
he can act both as best friend n lover n can wait for me to marry him
CAN TRAVEL, NO PROBS FOR HIM TO TRAVEL

IMPORTANT
someone who wont insult or mock the future in law, respect my parents do them like his own like i wish to be a daughter to his parents
im very shy , but friendly with those i hv already comfortable n close with
im approachable to some unapproachble to some
his family should b open minded not judgemental,supportive not controlling,wont want to get involve in their son matter

he wont want me to live with his parents after marriage sorry if u prefer to live with ur parents and u dont like wht i say u should respect me
marriage wont b really succesful if live with parents i hope u respect me this is based on many advices, observation etc
i dont like this idea so if u dont like wht i say u can but dont come to text me dont waste ur time to send angry messages


i want a man who we want live and die together, there is no 2nd for him,
i dont care if other wanna marry hw much im talking abt my husbnd i believe he want only one to those who wanna marry more than 1 who sent angry messages n using religion as ur excuses when its about marrying more than one u will say u wanna follow islam so why dont u say that way too in other things that islam want u to do? u re not even a prophet, he is smart, wise, full of knowledge,rich (to me he is rich) n justice..ure just an ordinary full of sin human so stop using islam to achieve your lust , prophet marrying more than one not for lust..he is helping women that time..

important
he is open minded can accept wht she wanna do in her life he is fine with her being working or housewife or working by herself he does not mind with whatever she wanna do , not a type who restrict it as he only want a working girl or restrict is as he only want a housewife..

not the type who is manipulative
manipulate situation makes everything seem like her fault

i cant reply to everyone , it depends, myb i wont reply at all

it does not matter age if people question why u get older but not yet married that shows the people who question this probably bad or not a true muslim, if that people understand islam how can they dunno that is beyond our power, that is Allah fate
there are many married at 40 above still get children, they are fertile
this is allah rezq..many married at young get children late
so u wanted baby but wont care If the person is not right for u?
children is a gift from Allah some who married younger get children very late or even divorced married younger but dont get children everything is depend on Allah, it is a matter about rezq n fate

if u get it alhamdllh if not yet u make effort n see wht allah will.. if he/she love u he/she will marries u out of sincerity not to marries u for some reason eg to get children (altho everyone who is marrying wanna hv children but a person shouldnt marry u for babies) , lust, wealth, cars, to run away from problems

myb its hard but dont go for average love, u may find many can love u but the question hw much they are willing to do for u, hw much they can sacrifice for u, hw they going to treat u till old?do u think those who get married are all marrying a true love?

if u think im looking for a fairytale or wht i want is unexist, actually i hv seen this type of men just not so many the issues are those i saw are married or got engaged or we are too shy to speak to each other but i believed these type still exist and single

to me people shouldnt decide to get married out of age just bcs u dont want to get older or to hv children early so u immediately decide to marry? some people dont want to marry that soon hw can u decide to marry if u dont feel convince on that person.. so u decide to marry early bcs dont want to get older or marry early to hv baby soon???? wht if u dont love that person or that person is bad or not suitable or etc..hw can u ignore all other things just to prevent age from getting old or just to get baby early? getting a baby or not is depend on Allah, medication has go really advance these day n who are u to question abt someone else when u dunt even knw ur own fate?or ur children fate? or how u can mock or insult other about these things if u dunno anything about them etc? u just make a guessing based on their age then u mock them?

im here not to immediately get married also not to collect friends, but it is important to get to knw a person very well to build a friendship but with serious intention, i want someone WHO WANT TO GET TO KNOW ME SERIOUSLY CAN START BY BEING LIKE a BEST FRIEND BUT WITH SERIOUS INTENTION NOT TO KNOW ME ONLY AS FRIEND,NOT TO KNOW ONLY AS BRO SIS AND JUST INTEND TO B ONLY FRIEND AND CASUAL FRIEND FOREVER

dont ask to meet if u nvr put any much effort for example text rarely etc but then ask to meet as sister? ooo u come rarely then use some islamic excuses that sound good saying want to meet as respectable sister? good but for what? i dont mean oh dude u should love me bcs myb im not interested in you too..
my way is different im not open minded to hang out with male acquitance so dont ask to meet if u dont love me..dont ask to meet if u are unsure about me

i want a love marriage shd have loved me genuinely even before he marries me altho to build a love after marriage is good but i dont want anyone who wanna marries me out of like n build love only after that

not a stingy, generous if ure stingy dont text me , very humble, strong mind not the type who will mourn over life prob, not the type who relies on woman
strong minded man a difficulty wont feel difficult when with him bcs he is supportive and helpful


if anyone by chance stop by here and being angry with my preferences why being hurt with it in the first place? questionning me if im perfect to demand some criteria? for ur information a woman should b demanding bcs a man is a leader in the family a man is a chief in a family he will be followed and for ur information
im practising muslim n he will b my first n last, about other things if ure questionning abt my islam to demand some criteria i wrote for ur information im learning in fact everyone is learning, no one is born with all knowledge, it does not matter ur age but learning abt religion, islam, academic knowledge etc are a lifetime process so u cant question abt hw much is someone's knowledge as long as the person is trying and wanted to learn

i dont like any man who talk randomly about other women infront of me unless she is his relative, i dont like sorry if ure this type u should find someone like u, let she talk abt other man as well infront of u, thats fair n suit u believe me if ure this type it wont b succesful with me so dont text me

i also dont like if ure trying to compare me with other woman ur not perfect as well n everyone isnt


dont say love dont pretend to be serious dont waste ur time rather than playing someone better u find Allah

if u were not genuine, the type who wanted to fool innocent why try hard to find online if thats just to waste time

not someone who is easy to change mind
today say this tmorow say differently,
not someone who has weird kind of thinking or weird ideas..
not a shaman or have black magic

i prefer a person who shows more in action, not the type who tell first do later! its okay if ure sweet talker as long as she is aware ure kidding but not okay if u let her misunderstand to the deceiving stage n only reveal on the last day when u wanted to leave

a family man
finished bachelor
love study, smart in study wise in LIFE
if ure trying to use any woman to forget someone or to pass time, to amuse u or text her bcs u like her pic thats loser dont come to text me
if u r trying to talk dirty dont waste ur time wanna test me go on u do a fake account haha
u think a woman can b seduced with a cheap thing? have a dignity dont b cheap
thats disgusting
i think a real good man too wont get easily seduced or tempted, that can disgust u too right?
i hope good men like our baba still exist
may Allah protect our parents, blessed with long live ,good health,always ameen inshaallah

if u pretend to be islamic to make me like u , use islam to make me believe ur promises (that happened before) or pretend to love me but then manipulate me , if ure doing this to pass time bcs u was bored
try to have hobbies u can play football, travel, go to islamic classes, learn quran,further study do small business try to get extra money many things dont be loser using an innocent woman
if ure just lonely u can make friends but why pretend to b serious pretend to love and encourage her to build an interest

Also i dont like this kind of style
let say u wanted people to trust u by keep mentiong this sentences
'im a muslim i wont lie, or betray u
myb ur trustworthy but mentioning this 'im a muslim u can trust me i wont lie' is annoying, people wanted to see ur action, wanted u to prove not by keep mentioning this sentences
if ur this annoying
please dont text me..
instead of saying that why dont u change ur word saying this
' u will knw me by time long after u knw me u will knw i am trustworthy, im a real muslim u'll know this by time' this is better than keep saying ur muslim u dont lie bla5
if u get angry text me to scold me, dont waste time,its hard for me to read or reply,
if u text someone to say bad things that shows the low intelect u have, a real decent high intelect person wont come to say harsh things

if u already liked someone else but text me just to see if u can get more option or in contact with others, be honest and dont text me

if we are in a constant chat but u take almost whole day to reply or couldnt be committed to get to knw seriously and cant be like a best friend should be, u knw urself sorry it wont works with me dont text me
if u just intend to wanna knw wht type of person i am just to be as bro sister and thats all, dont waste time dont come to me
if u just wanna have a lover with no future plan, dont text me
if u cant with distance dont text me
i dont mind with distance as long as im convince in u n ure commited , distance only fail when no trust,
if u cant with distance, easy to gv up, dont text me
if u prefer dating daily dont text me i want a person who can adapt to whatever situation
if by not being able to go out for a date (bcs of distance , parents dont allow etc) with me makes u hard to be faithful or makes ur heart to look for other, dont text me, Allah will punish u if u dare to text me when u knw ure this type
if ure easy to leave easy to change mind when u get bored, dont text me, dont text me if ur type who follow mood
after marriage i can date my husbnd daily
u cant force to call me if i dont want to as long as im not comfortable n dunno u i wont like phone call or video call
i want a really genuine person, wise, mature, no prob to travel, broad minded,

hijra is not my name so dont call me that
it is just a nickname i use online

last but not least dont send me messages saying you're handsome or what let me evaluate myself, faces are subjective maybe to some people that person isnt good looking or to other he is.. it depend in the eye of beholder, so stop saying your good looking its annoying, most who tell that thing without being asked arent handsome (myb in my eyes) plus that kind of attitude is annoying..
sorry dont b mad, all allah creation are beautiful
i just dont like some character..