Assalam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh!
Just a little notice to scammers before I start: Don't bother yourself to contact me, you will just waste your and my time. I will not transfer any penny before I meet my future spouse with her wali.
To rest of you who is serious, hope you excuse me for that previous notice. But there is a lot of people who think they talk to someone more stupid than they are. And I don't want to waste my time with them. So kindly read ALL my profile, it is long text, but I made it like that to save your time and let you know me before you start talking to me. I don't like to talk to foreign women without good and halal reasons. Will try here, with Allah's will, to be honest, and make it clear for you insha'Allah. And kindly send me an answer with "Not interested" if it was me who send you a message so I can keep looking. Because I don't message two "candidates" simultaneity.
So we start with Bismillah!
Hard to tell about myself, but friends describe me as
Loooooooove kids and want to have lots of my own children.
I am already married to a Malaysian and I love her. We decided to build a family upon salafs way who most of them had polygyny families. So when you marry me you will also get a new friend and sister, my wife, who will not treat you as a rival enemy, but as a helpful ally. Alhamdulillah, she is kind and nice, fear Allah, and she looks forward to getting co-wife.
Alhamdulillah, I know how to treat a woman well. But I am dominant and like to have my house in control as responsible head and leader of my own family.
Religious (inshaAllah), Taking my religion very seriously and I want my family in that way. I follow the Quran and Sunnah with salafs understanding of them. The cultural values (eastern and especially western) don't have any place at me and my family.
I also like to enjoy the lots of things Allah make it halaal for us, I don't like to live as a monk. But at the same time, I do not bind happiness with dunyah and I try to prepare my family with guidance and knowledge to face what Allah will test us with.
I am originally from The Levant ("Syria") but I am born and raised most of my life in Sweden. I speak Arabic and Swedish fluently, and also good English but not perfectly.
Family & relationships:
Alhamdulillah, I found my wife on the internet and she shares the same life view as mine. She already knows (even before we get married) that I will marry again inshaAllah. She is very positive to be part of a polygyny family. I love her and she loves me alhamdulillah.
My relation with my mother and sister is very strong. My father and my other sister live in other cities. I don't have any other siblings.
I have also some friends I like to spend my time with.
Hobbies & Interests:
1. Reading and get more knowledge about our deen.
2. Take long walks outside.
3. Interested in some dunyah knowledge like tech and do-it-by-yourself activities.
4. Sometimes I like cooking but mostly I like to make a grill party with family, maybe too much.
5. Helping other Muslims.
My Work Life:
Alhamdulillah, I can say I am hardworking. I had different works and never say no to any kind of works as long as it is halaal.
I also believe that marriage and birth of a child will make rizq from Allah subhanuhu wa taala as He told us.
I studied for about two years at university but was interrupted because I had other obligations.
I am now planning to finish my works here in Sweden because I will soon move to Malaysia inshaAllah.
Goals & Ambitions:
Well I will not lie for you: The main reason that I want to marry second is cuz I am as Allah created me:
[زُيِّنَ لِلنَّاسِ حُبُّ الشَّهَوَاتِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ وَالْبَنِينَ...]
[Men are naturally tempted by the lure of women, children...] (Quran 3:14)
So I looking for the second wife because:
1) I want halaal pleasure (and I maybe marry more wives, just want to be honest with you as I was honest with my wife before I married her).
2) I like kids and I wish from Allah that He gives me a lot of them.
But actually, it's not only for that reason. I want to build a big family with Islamic values. I want to feel that I am not a stranger for being religious and follow Allah's will and worship Him from A to Z within my family.
InshaAllah I will soon within one year or less migrate to a Muslim country (Malaysia) with my family, so if you are a real Muslim who lives in the west you will get the opportunity to make Hijrah with me from dar ul-kufr to live at least between Muslim community.
Also, I like that my whole family has a strong band to each other, especially my children from different wives, and I want my wives to treat each other with respect and have patience with me and each other for the sake of Allah, at last, no one is perfect, including me. I also want my children from one wife to treat another wife as a second mom. I want my whole family to live in one same house but with separate bedrooms for each wife for having privacy when she needs it.
Someone who shares my ambition.
I am not looking for beauty and don't care about your skin color, but you shouldn't be taller than me (I am 172 cm or 5 ' 8 ") and also not chubby.
Her life priority should be:
1) Allah and his Deen.
She must know the real meaning of this ayah: [وَلَقَدْ بَعَثْنَا فِي كُلِّ أُمَّةٍ رَّسُولًا أَنِ اعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَاجْتَنِبُوا الطَّاغُوتَ...] [Accordingly, we sent to every community a Messenger, saying, "Worship Allah and keep away from the taghut."...] (Quran 16:36). She must know Tawheed and al-walaa wa al-baraa and practice it (not only know them in theory).
She must do at least her obligated daily prayers, and fast Ramadan and wear full hijaab including niqaab (or have will to start wearing it).
Have will learn more about her deen.
Must have the will to learn Arabic so she can understand the deen directly from its resources (i can teach you) and she teach it to my children. Arabic will also be the main language at home in my family inshaAllah.
2) Husband and the family.
Looking for a wife who is submissive and obedient.
قال رسلول اللهﷺ: ...فَإِنِّي لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِغَيْرِ اللَّهِ لأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا وَالَّذِي نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ لاَ تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا وَلَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ "
The Messenger of Allahﷺ said: ...If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad! No woman can fulfill her duty towards Allah until she fulfills her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.
I want here also to see and treat her co-wives as an opportunity, not a problem. And she must to like have a lot of children, at least 5 from her only.
3) Anything else.
She can have her own ambitions, like studies or works if she wishes that, but she must find a way to not make it crash with the other two mentioned priorities.
Finally: Marriage is a serious thing and we should take it in that way. I am expecting that we talk through "W h a t s A p p" to you or your wali. Helahels messages are not live or practical for planning a marriage. Also, you need to get a picture from me of course before we get into the details.
Tack care inshaAllah.
Your brother... Abu Safia