It's wonders how the brain operates! Its quick in seeing others' mistakes but hard to see its own shortcomings.
Take an example of a manipulator, always pointing fingers on others even if they're the cause, but can't stand anyone or anything to do with their own personality. Yes, abusers abuse but never condone being abused. Treat them they way they treat you and see how upset they be. I usually laugh sadly out of pity.
Back to the point, gender. Men blame women, women blame men. It's funny. It's complicated. It's ironic. It's sensitive. It's emotional. It's stupidity. Its childish. It's meaningless. It's stressful.
But what I know, humans, be any gender, are not perfect and will never be one. So, they can never be corrected, say it, don't say it, complain, praise. But humans are humans and will remain humans. Allah's scale, 50% only to be good. I wish prophet Musa or Nuh A.S were to be here, 😂, following our convo, of course. They know people better than we do.