It's 2022, and my goal is to get married before 2022 is over.
Whenever I set a goal to get married as soon as possible this year, I pray and keep trying, but yet again the years have passed with no sign of this waiting coming to an end?
Am I disappointed in the Allah I faithfully pleaded with? Am I desperate? Alhamdulilah I did not give up, the matter of being sad or disappointed will definitely happen, as a weak human being must have experienced an inner struggle between sadness and disappointment. But alhandulilah I always managed to win from all bad attitudes that doubted Allah.
I always say to myself, that Allah is still preventing him from meeting me. My soul mate clearly had his name written on Lauh Mahfudz long before I was born. He is still in a place that has not been opened by Allah so that we still cannot meet.
There are many reasons why Allah doesn't allow us to meet, maybe he's not good enough right now because I hope to meet a good man. Likewise he hasn't been able to meet me because maybe I'm not good enough while he hopes to meet a good woman. The point is that we are still the same as not meeting the requirements that we each set.
The question is whether to wait for both of us to meet each other when we good enough, or maybe we can change our prayers ? We don't have to be good before we meet, we are ready to accept each other's shortcomings. Later after meeting, both of us can improve ourselves so that we can both be good partners in front of Allah, and can give each other happiness.
So, I tried to change the way I pray. May Allah give us the opportunity to meet sooner than the time.
For my brothers and sisters who haven't found your ideal partner. Let's change our prayers, don't set targets on our candidates, set INTENTIONS, so that we both achieve the targets we dream of after we are together. If any of us are not good, those who are good will guide those who are not. Thus perfect the purpose of a marriage. May Allah bless this. If Allah is pleased with our lives, then automatically there is nothing to worry about in building a household in the future. The days that will be spent together will become more beautiful every day. May Allah give us the opportunity to meet our life partner soon. Amen...
Never give up, keep trying and keep fighting to improve ourselves so that when we meet him/her we are ready to make each other happy. May Allah bless us.