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Polygamy

Lala Created Jul 8, 2020 04:20
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Assalamualaikum, my question is for sister here, but if anyone can answer me, it's ok. I'm not against syariah Polygamy. But do you accept if a man come to you as a 2nd/3rd/4rth wives? This man is really have good knowledges but so rude. What should we do as his future wife, if he treat 1st wife doesn't good. Please answer. Jazakallahu khaira πŸ™

 

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Farid

Jul 8, 2020 05:23

I would say avoid him. I think one of the requirements of polygamy is to treat all your wives fairly and equally. If he can't, then he cannot marry more than one woman. If he's rude, that's another problem on its own.

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Lala

Jul 8, 2020 05:29

Jazakallah khaira brother.

Farid

Jul 8, 2020 05:40

Wa iyyaki, Sister.

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Deleted User

Jul 8, 2020 07:53

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: β€œIf a man had several spouses, and he was unfair to them, then on Judgment Day he will rise with a crooked side,"(one side will be twisted in the same way as he was not fair to one of the wives)(hadith leads Tirmizi).

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Deleted User

Jul 10, 2020 12:07

@Abu Maryam Al Salafy, true, I have read a similar hadith

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Lala

Jul 11, 2020 06:24

he is active in influencing other men to polygamy. but in reality, he can't managed everything yet.
Please for all men. If you looking for 2nd. Do it for Allah. For ibadah. Don't just say I can. But in reality you treat your wives not good

arrasaq

Jul 24, 2020 23:08

I wish marry second wife instead of wife.

arrasaq

Jul 24, 2020 23:09

I mean it good marry second wife rather committing adultery.

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Deleted User

Jul 24, 2020 23:52

A man doesnt have much strength if they think that way!

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 00:00

Its a lame reason to get married again. Ive come across it often..pretty sad indeed!

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 00:12

Na man i aint saying the sunnah is bad! πŸ™‚ There are lots of reasons people marry again for lots of reasons, you know that. πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 00:13

Yeah souls will cluster together in jannah...it will be coool. πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 00:29

Ya just didnt understand what i was saying..thats all. Jumped in to early buddy hey! πŸ˜€

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 00:37

I dont want any physical matter in jannah..so definatly no shoes or jewelery or nothing like that.. I just would like to be a bright spirit treckin' around infinity Insha'Allah.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 02:16

Women will get hoors as well if they want. Whatever you desire is manifested..remember. πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 07:21

Yeah man ..impossible to get yucky things in jannah! I dont think my opinion discouraged that man..it wasnt personal as i dont know him..its just what i think when that situation has been presented to me..thats all. Ive had people that were after polygamy for other reasons than that..but simply to stop them from cheating on their wife...i feel sorry for the wife. If your sexual frustration is at that point...probably best to work on lowering your lust with sunnah practices. πŸ™‚ Alhammdullia its fasting time...good time to put things into application and self reflect i reckon.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 08:03

I think youve gotta be very satisfied and very content and appreciative with what Allah has provided in your life, before Allah will grant you more..unless you have an intention that is very lofty. But anyway..as we all know...all women are'nt the same, and all men are'nt the same. Alhammdullia for the diversity...otherwise we would be stuck with no variety at all! πŸ˜„

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 08:06

Dear Muslim Brothers Revive the Sunnah of Polygamy,there are a lot of sisters who cannot get married,.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 11:03

Alhammdullia.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 12:45

Not sure..i wasnt there at the time. πŸ˜€ Im sure if you look into it, and mull over it, you will find other reasons. Allah likes us to discover all the reasons why this or that was a certain way or done or said. Thats why Allah likes us to think and ponder. Thats what The Prophet pbuh did...went to a cave to think. We all have our individual interests on what topics we like to ponder about. And where you concentrate your focus is what Allah will guide you with. I find Allah has multi-layered reasons behind most things in life.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 12:48

It would be really enthralling to have generation wave of new insights we can share. It takes all parts of the car to make the car drive...and we are one...so....

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 12:53

I would think The Prophet had multiple reasons why He did a lot of things in His life. I would think all the Prophets would have been blessed with this ability and logic for obvious reasons...they were to lead humans.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 12:53

"Marry women who are pleasant to you and are permissible for you: two, three, four" (Sura 4 "Women", ayah 3)--this is what Allah has allowed us, all praise be to Allah

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 12:54

Alhammdullia.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 20:43

Abu, you have a sympathy for the women, and that is a better reason to marry more than one. True compassion.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 21:07

yes I love women, if of course they love Allah,☝️

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 21:26

"And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]."
Surah nisa, aya 3.
The sahabas were the best generation of mankind that was created by Allah ar-Rahman.
We can want to follow their example but I don't think anyone can compare to them. Their eeman and practice were exceptional hence why some were given the glad tidings of being admitted to Jannat.

Abu khadija, Birmingham, said : "Only men who are certain that they can treat all their wives fairly are allowed to marry more than one wife. That means, among other things, that they must be able to provide the same standard of housing, food and clothing for each wife, and treat each one with equal kindness and consideration as well as spending time with them equally. The Qur’an reminds men that to treat wives with justice is very hard; which (in reality) rules out polygamy for most men."



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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 21:28

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/polygamy-in-islam-better-than-being-alone/

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 23:45

It just says treat their wifes fairly..and every woman is different. I think being "treated fairly" is open to what the individual needs and wants.

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Deleted User

Jul 25, 2020 23:57

No one said its a "must" to provide the same standard of things. Some women dont want or need the same. Interpretations can vary, because so do humans.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 00:47

@Beauty, in Islam, we follow rules, not personal opinions or interpretations. Exactly because we are all different. We take knowledge from scholars who are the inheritors of the prophets peace be upon them. You don't have to agree with this but Islam is about knowledge. Imam Bukhari may Allah have Mercy upon him, Ameen, there is no practice without knowledge. Knowledge is to be sought not guessed.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 00:47

Imam Bukhari said ***

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 00:50

@ how would you know that no-one said it is a must ? Remember, we don't assume. No assumptions. As a matter of fact many who follow the Sunnah say it is a must. You find this in talks, conferences, books...

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 00:51

Enough for me, now. I draw a line. People agree or don't.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 00:55

I dont need the same amount of time or things as other wifes if i got married into polygamy. I wouldnt require the same standard as the others..so that dont speak fo me.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 00:56

As long as im treated fairly by my husband..thats all id need.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 01:04

We follow the Qar'an and The Prophet..not other people in talks and confrences. The Prophet never said "must".

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 01:05

Or the same standard.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 01:05

But used the term "fairly". And whats fair can vary from person to person.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 01:16

I am certainly not a Norwegian engineer, )) but I trust in Allah ,I believe that Allah will help me to be fair,of course it's not easy,but today there are a lot of sisters who cannot get married,not everyone is looking for Norwegian engineers or American doctors))there are sisters looking for godly brothers who fear Allah and live with the Name of Allah,

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 02:36

Im looking for a second wife. But id like to marry a sister in need like with 1-2 female children (no boys cause i have 2girls) or a refugee... Exept practicing islam and sincerity have no special conditions, don't care about race, skin color, nationality, age, economic status... Sisters: if you want to help send me cash, i dont want polygamy. Subhanallah.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 10:07

A scolar may have their interpretations, as scolars are the ones that interpret islamic sciences,law etc etc, and their knowledge is willed by Allah in different people at different times, via transmissions etc. And if their interpretation becomes of benefit to someone else then thats good i think. Not everyone is going to understand what every scolar is saying..sometimes we have to think long and hard before it is understood. Thats why we are asked to ponder. Yet, i was talking about the wording, not the concept. Just a mis understanding.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 10:20

I dont need to have my partner be responsible for my food, shelter and clothes. Im much more inclined to want to work together so we can both get through life. So i was saying its not a must for me...and i dont expect equal time if i was in a plural marriage. And there would be many woman with different wants from marriage. As long as people are fair to each other.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 10:25

@beauty. you speak beautifully, but I don't think that you will marry a second wife,)))

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 10:57

Thanks Abu..πŸ˜€πŸ˜„ Polyandry has been known to take place in history. 😜Whoops...did i just open a can of worms!?! 😬🀐 Better eat them up before anyone notices. πŸ˜„πŸ€«πŸ€­

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 11:13

You may think im ok a typing, yet me trying to speak proper so people understand is the sounds of futility! Got that Musa pbuh problem that ive gotta work on. πŸ˜’

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 11:14

the can of worms is already open, so marry meI'm certainly not a Norwegian engineer but we will not starve,))) in sha Allah,

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 11:38

☺️😊 Alhammdullia thankyou Abu, sweet sentiment. We can meet in jannah..think of that...pure energy, pure souls, pure reality! Triple treat! S u b h a n n A l l a h!

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 11:55

all praise be to Allah

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 12:25

I didnt say i reject polygamy. Im not sure where you got that idea. I think its fine.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 12:26

Neither did content. So, im not sure who ya talkin bout..but it aint us.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 12:31

Who are you talking about?

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 12:36

I'll probably be more interested in exploring infinity and meeting other beings than worry about the humans. πŸ˜€

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 13:19

Id be a second wife.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 13:27

Alhammdullia, thanks for the questions and the compliments..but ive gotta go...i feel really weird at the moment.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 17:18

@Abdullah1981, I don't understand your points.
@ Beauty, I am 200% for polygamy. My first choice really.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 20:11

Yeah, im not sure what he was on about. He was incorrect with what he was thinking both times. If you wanna encourage something, great! But, trying to create a false situation to support that encouragment of a sunnah is a bit weird..your right Abdullah..you are a nerd, but im an idiot, so let us all be weird idiots and nerds. Alhammdullia for that. πŸ˜„

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A Muslimah

Jul 26, 2020 20:41

@Abu Maryam Al Salafy, all I see in you is a frustrate being with a shallow thinking ability. A sister got scammed and all you could contribute is to make fun out of in every post you comment on. The fact that you are not a successful career man doesn't mean such men doesn't exist, and of course those men are more desirable, we(both men and women) all have desires, preferences, goals and tastes, if you find out that you are not on a common ground with a woman, let her be, find your match and stop crying over a spilt milk. Stop shouting Norwegian Engineer up and down! Get a life!!!

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:00

@ A muslimah---my dear sister why are you so worried. )) there were not only Norwegian engineers, there were also American doctors, ))is your goal in life a Norwegian engineer ?? or an American doctor ??)))... here is my goal God-fearing Muslim woman,and her non-Islamic education and social status do not interest me,and where did you get the idea that my career is not successful?))))

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:00

Sometimes men pick on the women they like...similar to kids in the playground.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:02

Childlike mentality.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:06

To make baseless assumptions about someones life because they get insensed about one thing from another is something to try and grow out of.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:11

To think that someone is not successful at what they do because they are not finantially wealthy is not thought out well. Im poor and im successful. Another baseless assumption because of emotional flare ups.

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A Muslimah

Jul 26, 2020 21:13

@Abu Maryam Al Salaudeen, you sound frustrated and unsuccessful. Religion only is not enough to marry a man, it's just part of the criteria. Religion alone can't feed nor pay my bills, this is 21st century.... Wake up!

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A Muslimah

Jul 26, 2020 21:14

@Abu Maryam Al Salafy, you sound frustrated and unsuccessful. Religion only is not enough to marry a man, it's just part of the criteria. Religion alone can't feed nor pay my bills, this is 21st century.... Wake up!

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:16

There are many engineers and doctors..i know some. And they are not rich, yet very successful with their work. And just as vunerable to losing their job at any stage as much as anyone else. So, probably best not to hang all hopes on career occupations!

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A Muslimah

Jul 26, 2020 21:18

I detest cyber bullying. Some men on this forum type and comment as if they are the best, do you think a sane woman will like to marry a bully and get treated like a trash? No

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:24

21st century ??))))) and in the 21st century there is Allah who will not leave his slaves, you do not know ???)))

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:24

Im sure you have the skills to earn money to pay your bills etc in this 21st century? Its become clear to me that a lot of muslim women have become materialistic because they lack the skills or impetus to earn some cash.

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A Muslimah

Jul 26, 2020 21:24

@beauty, wealth is not a measure of success or fulfilment but we all have our wants and desire due to a reason or two but I don't see a reason why he should be bittered about someone's want.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:27

Do you need to understand why? Your bittered about his ways. Bitterness is the same regardless of the cause.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:29

Most people on here have shown their weakness and strengths.

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A Muslimah

Jul 26, 2020 21:29

I'm sure the sister that got scammed can afford her bills, but we all have taste and desires.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:30

Remember...no one can hear how things are said, nor see the expression on the face when said.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:32

He teases because he actually likes a person. Weather or not he realises his own psychology or not.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:32

of course I'm a bad bully, a Norwegian engineer here he is better, he is a good guy, ))))

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:36

You cant assume content was liking him for his so called occupation. She never said that.

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:37

ooh my dreams dreams, ooh my passions ))

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Deleted User

Jul 26, 2020 21:38

I concur Abu, your not good at bullying. πŸ˜„Best stick to what your elegant at...islamic reminders like your last post.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 00:45

@A muslimah

You go girl,it's refreshing to see someone stand out and speak out bravely to point out what's wrong without fear of judgement and tell it like it is without sugarcoating,you are awesome,jazaki allah khayr 😘😘😘😘

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 00:57

@muslimah and Mayous
Jazaakomallahu khayr.
This brother keeps saying he wants someone pious whilst displaying the most outrageous attitude. Even a non pious sister will not be attracted by his ill manners. I do share your views on him on all aspects and more. However, I don't comment on his posts because Allah sees and hears everything.
Something a true man will know is that even if sisters are assumed and often wrongly to want wealth, there is one thing I know from the sisters around me and myself gentleness before everything. So poor or not, gentleness is a must.
That brother stands no chance in my view. The sad thing he does not realise that he is making people dislike him.
I don't remember stating anywhere my likes or dislikes but he thinks he can talk and think for me. That is not piety.
May Allah bless you muslima, mayous and beauty.Ameen. During these ten blessed days, a good deed is more beloved to Allah and a sin is more severe.
Posting reminders and not taking heed oneself only confirms what I thought about the individual.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 01:14

@Abdullah1981, we like warriors behind a keyboard.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 01:15

When they stand for what they think is right, used with hikma.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 01:33

I didnt do no good deeds on here..just typing away to strangers. πŸ˜€ Not nessesary at all to do. Words dont mean much to me..my actions speak louder than my words.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 05:51

@content )))---- dear sister, don't worry about me too much. )))my chances do not depend on you, my chances are predetermined by Allah,☝️luckily my chances do not depend on you,I have a wonderful family, children, and a wife who wants her Muslim sisters not to be left without a husband,when i eat bread she eats bread when i eat salt she eats salt, and being on this site I am more and more convinced that she is my wife the best wealth of this world given to me,from Allah,----In the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) it is said: β€œIndeed, Allah did not create a creation more hateful for Him than the.worldly goods Allah never looked at him.☝️

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 07:16

I think id prefer a single guy...from being on here, and watching and talking to single men...they have loneliness..and i can relate to that.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 07:20

I feel sad that they are on their own.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 07:45

Some people are too precious. They dont appreciate what some areas around the globe are going through. Violence and horrific things are normalised for some nations...some sisters and brothers from arabia areas talk to me of feeling tense and sad when visiting their home countries visiting family..never able to quite relax. Alhammdullia that they have had the opportunity to feel relaxation when here. It makes for a harder people..yet it doesnt mean their hearts are hardened. Some people get offended way to easy when they have lived a softer life in luxury.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 08:18

I will not whisper beautiful words to you in order to please you)) like a Norwegian engineer, I will speak the truth and what I see,

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 09:32

I was refferring to the softer nations..like australia, uk, us etc. And im the same as you Abu..i tell it like i see it. Yet Alhammdullia i see and hear your beautiful words..😊 No beauty gets past me without appreciating it! Even if im grumpy! πŸ˜€

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 11:38

@ Abdullah1981, this comment is gross and unnecessary.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 18:03

Exactly this is sunnah not fard
So its women choice what they want
Either they want to choose to be second wife or not
Its individual choice
And Allah will not questioned for that

No one here is opposing the sunnah
We all Muslimahs respect and also accept that sunnah too
But that doesn't mean we forcefully accept it in our life
And you are no one to decide who have taqwa or not

Those women who don't want to be second wife
That doesn't make them sinner
Its their own choice.

Marriage is an individual choice
So here no one has right to interfere


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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 18:14

And yes...one more thing

If someone want more wives and if he is looking for it
There is nothing wrong in it
After all its a sunnah
Good, if you are able to do justify with all your wives
And make them all happy together
That's nice
Definitely encourageble
But his duty is only to approach a woman for marriage
If she is ok with it
Then no issues
But if the woman is not ok with it and if she doesn't want to accept polygamy
You should respect that too...
After all its her life
She has all rights to chose whom to marry.
But some men are so egoistic or dnt know what they think abt themselves
They start saying nasty things
How she rejected this sunnah and all....
She is not good muslimah and so many other things

So this not good
You have no right to judge anyone
Its neighter your duty
Leave it on Allah....

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 20:47

If Allah has said that there will be more woman to men towards the end of this life..humans cannot change that no matter what they do. Many possible ways it will occur if you think of it...it maybe that a lot of the women tin the end will be non religious...only Allah knows. Yet, you cannot change what he has said. Yet its a sweet sentiment to want everyone to be married.

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Deleted User

Jul 27, 2020 20:52

So maybe some should go and marry a non religious woman..your love may bring them to Islam and salvation..you never know. πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 01:49

About the sunnah....
If your practicing a sunnah...the aim of the sunnah is to hopefully comprehend and maintain the allegorical meanings and reasons why the sunnah is performed. So the progression is normally..physical, mental then spiritual.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 01:57

Everyone loves to see everyone have a partner to love. That is accepting the sunnah of polygamy in the heart..even if you only have one partner..we love for our brothers and sisters what we love for ourselves. If you love to see everyone get a married and be able to share love..then you have accepted the sunnah in your heart. As Allah teaches us that we are one and to love each other..no matter which way people choose. Out of the beauty of compassion, sometimes a man will marry more than one, to protect the ummah. πŸ™‚ Salaam.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:10

I dont feel is disunited..we all carry the same love.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:12

Everything is exactly where it should be..Allah is in control, everything is going exactly to His plan.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:13

Nothing is amiss.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:16

If you see a flaw in Allahs creation...look up! Then look again....where is the mistake Allah made?

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:17

I feel and know im connected. I hope that you feel united with your people too.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:20

Its lovely that you want a strong bond between people. Mash'Allah. 😊

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:36

Yeah we have different groups here...we all love and enjoy time together.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:40

It beautiful that you want everything perfect...great trait! You will get your want in jannah! Alhammdullia!

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:42

I love that trait. πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 03:49

I got confused by ya conversation anyways..you said it was your opinion that islam is disunited, then said it wasnt your opinion. πŸ˜’ Sorry, it was hard to hear what your point was. But anyway, i feel a common thread with all religious groups and with all different types of the ummah. I hope you do too one day. πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 04:12

So your proposing that if all muslim men be polygamous...that will unite all the different groups together more. Lets see if thats what happens. Life is my favourite television! πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 06:05

There are many paths that lead to Allah Elhammdullia! Think of the shape of a tree...from the ground up.. Ayat.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 06:06

So please, be at ease. All good.

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 09:34

@Beauty you confuse at times, I must say. I guess messaging is not conveying information well at times

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 09:35

Alhammdullia πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 09:37

Its all good, i understand me, and others do. And i like that i confuse sometimes, thanks chick! πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 09:51

Exactly. You cant guage tone, inflections etc when you just read..no voice or facial expressions make understanding very confusing at times. Its like the story of Babel..πŸ˜€β˜ΊοΈ

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Deleted User

Jul 28, 2020 23:14

Looks like yet another demir on our case. πŸ™„

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 00:14

Ketchup! 🀫☺️

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 00:54

Catch up then..the others have gone ahead..

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 00:54

Others will know what im refferring to.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 08:15

polygamy is one of the greatest wisdoms of Allah☝️

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 09:23

let's not forget that in the Bible there is no prohibition on polygamy,and many biblical prophets were polygamists))

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 09:58

Polyandry has been practiced. This is when a wife has plural husbands. It would keep the humble nature alive.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 11:54

AbdullahA1981,,,ABRAHAM-3 Wives (GENESIS 16: 1; 16: 3; 25: 1)
MOSES-2 Wives (EXODUS 2:21; 18: 1-6; BOOK OF NUMBERS 12: 1)
JACOB 4 Wives (Genesis 29:23; 28:28; 30: 4; 30: 9)
DAVID-CIRCLE 18 (FIRST BOOK OF SAMUEL 18:27; 25: 39-44; SECOND BOOK OF SAMUEL 3: 4-5; 13: 3; 5: 13; 12: 7-8; 12:24; 16: 21-23 )
SOLOMON-700 Wives, (FIRST BOOK OF KINGS 11: 3)

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 13:26

I think all of those are from the old testament...rhe new testament starts at mathew.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 15:09

I fully support polygamy. I think it has great benefits for women and the ummah, not only for men.
Allah our Creator knows His creations better than anyone on this planet.
He knows what is good for us and wants good for us.
Allah is Free from all imperfections and injustice and discrimination are only attributes of us human beings.
It is important to learn Islam and get to know Allah by learning His beautiful Names and Attributes. Saying we are Muslims and not knowing Islam and our Creator is insufficient. May Allah guide us all and protect us from ignorance and ignorant people. Ameen

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 15:13

@ Julia, it is an injustice to talk for ALL men. Most do care about women.
Plus you are welcome to express your personal view but you have no right to talk for " women". Many don't share your views.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 15:16

I do question whether some on this site are who they say they are. Their posts are quite extraordinary.

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zanat

Jul 29, 2020 18:20

Asalam Aleikum.. I have been following this post and sometimes I don't understand us women we say we are Muslims but we don't support sunnah.. Anywy evrybody is entitled to their own opinion, but my only advice to women here is no man will ever be yours alone you have to accept to share coz if you don't accept to share whole heartedly you will get heart broken finding him doing worse with non halal woman for her so it's better to accept to share and atlst you will know you are not alone instead of being lied to that u are the only one when in reality you aren't alone in the marriage.. My dear sisters let's welcome polygamy whole heartedly and actually Allah will bless u for doing that coz its not easy but doing it for the sake of Allah you will find more peace than lieng to yourself.. Let's be realistic please... And if I have hurt anyone's opinion I am sorry please forgive me just wanted women out here to stop dreaming and wake up to reality..

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:09

As ive said in other msgs...if you are prone to be influenced by other readings and other people...stick to only reading the Qar'an. We as muslims believe in other articles of faith..this includes the bible. Yet, those articles do not need to be read, but can be used for study IF one has very good discernment of what one is reading, so that they can see through the distortions. But you really dont need to read other articles..yet some that take on studies..may want to for referance. Yet, they can be very difficult to discern, whereas the Qar'an is very simplified Alhammdullia, so that it can be understood Insha'Allah. The Qar'an was delivered for All humanity..so some will realise more than others.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:17

The Qar'an was originally delivered to unintelligent people.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:22

@ Beauty, may Allah guide you and forgive you. Ameen. Your posts are quite astonishing not to say ridiculous. Part of being on a public platform to bear with nonsense from all kind of individuals. Al hamdulilallah

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:24

Thanks chick. 😊 Thats cool.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:36

Im touched to hear that my thoughts are Astonishing. 😊 But, its thoughts that are shared by many, i cant claim it for myself. Thanks for your prayer too. Sleep well.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:47

I fully agree that these thoughts are indeed shared with many. The world is populated by many imbeciles so that does not come as a surprise that these thoughts and more are existing.
The Quran is for people of understanding. This is stated so many times in the Quran. Allah blesses whoever He wishes with intelligence, wisdom and understanding of His Holy book. We Muslims know the blessing Allah has bestowed upon us with sending the Quran and His Prophet peace be upon him. And our duty is convey the message but only Allah opens the heart to His Deen, and Allah only choses people of understanding.
Al hamdulilallah we are forever grateful to have been guided and we pray we remain steadfast. Please continue entertaining me. It reminds me of how blessed I am

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:48

Al hamdulilallah

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 22:59

You misunderstood me. I said unintellegent..as there were people back then doing the wrong things in lots of ways, and not using their heart and mind. And most Muslims dont understand the full extent of the Qar'an..and i aint gonna claim that i do either.. as you may realise one things one time..and then Allah will make you realise even more about the same thing on following readings. I was just reiterating and echoing as someone asked. It was only general advise. You attatch the negative association to words, not everyone does.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:04

Not everyone that is a muslim understands everything..and that speaks for all humanity. Yet, i was really just offering some study reminder to the one that was asking.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:06

@ Beauty, I don't think I misinterpret you at all.
Many of your posts confirm my opinion about you. There is a pattern. You mock Islam and at times Allah then when you think you have exposed yourself too much you try to reverse things.
I don't believe for a second you are who you claim you are.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:12

Abdullah ibn Mas’ud reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, β€œThe best people are those of my generation, then those who come after them, then those who come after them. Then, there will come people after them whose testimony precedes their oaths and their oaths precede their testimony.”

Source: SΜ£ahΜ£iΜ„hΜ£ al-BukhaΜ„riΜ„ 6065, SΜ£ahΜ£iΜ„hΜ£ Muslim 2533

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:12

I think everyone has something to add to life.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:15

Sadly, yes. Often it is negative

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:19

I understand i come across somewhat mysterious to some. Yet, im not asking anyone to believe that im not genuine.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:21

Yes Allah knew that people as a whole improve generation after generation. Its evident everywhere Alhammdullia! Its beautiful to watch. πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:28

Im just being myself..if thats not good enough for some people reading a msg that i sent, i cant do much about that. I meant no malice with what i posted..i was just offering help.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:33

Al-Zubair ibn β€˜Adi reported: We came to Anas ibn Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, and we complained to him of what we suffered from the ruler Al-Hajjaj. Anas said, β€œBe patient, for an era will not come upon but that what comes after is worse, until you meet your Lord. I heard it from your Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him.”

Source: SΜ£ahΜ£iΜ„hΜ£ al-BukhaΜ„riΜ„ 6657

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:38

I am glad that posts cannot be deleted.

Everyone is free to read and make their own mind. In many instances, I thought you were ridiculing Islam and Allah. I needed time to be certain.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:40

May Allah protect his Ummah from all evil. Ameen.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:42

Its always helpful to pause and think about what is heard, it gives time for digestion.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:45

It said the trusted ones will not be trusted towards the end. Yet, thats not our concern...ascending is our mission.

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Deleted User

Jul 29, 2020 23:54

Im not on here to impress people with my Islamic eclat..im here to look out for men! I just post on the forum as well. People can think what they want..im not concerned.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:04

@Julia, I read your post again. You are right, you did not talk for All women. My apologies.

I am definitely in favour of a polygamous marriage. But Allah is the best of Planners.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:08

Ive ready explained that in a msg on here.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:10

Typo..Ive alteady explained about the sunnah of polygamy in a msg on here.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:13

But i dont think it was understandable.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:17

Adjust your word framing.. then people wont make the mistake.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:19

Its no problem if someone doesnt pick up on what you wrote. Its theirs.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:20

Otherwise..they would understand and not get anyone wrong! πŸ˜„

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:22

Some people dont mind sharing, we are one. Some people are not ready to share as much as others yet, thats all.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:25

Allahs shares with all Alhamndullia..even the wicked are sustained. And some things are granted to some that others wont recieve. So Allah has both traits..and its refected in His creations. πŸ™‚ La lia ha ila la

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 00:26

Typo. πŸ˜’

Abrar Qureshi

Jul 30, 2020 07:28

I wonder if someone points out hypocrisy in others, points hypocrisy in themselves too. Is that them being a hypocrite then πŸ€”.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 08:16

Thats why blame and shame is not an islamic principal. Compassion and mercy and for giveness are...

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 10:09

AbdullahA1981, he Abrar ,seeks knowledge and he has tawhid,,

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 10:37

You loose all your points when you offend an insult people unknowingly. Careful with ya words there champ..dont want to cancel yourself out.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 11:21

She wrote the post weeks ago...

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 12:18

Who are you sending this msg to??

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 12:20

I will gladly marry a woman under 55 - 60 years old, no matter what nationality, ))

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 14:05

This is a marrige site. I dont use it to spread islam, i just be myself on here. You can do what you like..your preaching or whatever you want man...up to you. But im just being me.

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Deleted User

Jul 30, 2020 14:15

And i aint debating..im talking. Well, im actually typing as we all know. πŸ™„ Theres a difference.

Abrar Qureshi

Jul 30, 2020 14:24

@abdullah no brother it's not pointed to I was generally saying this πŸ˜„..and I would encourage you and everyone to spread Islamic knowledge as much as you guys can. Barring the fact that it should primarily be first from Qur'an and then hadith. I think these two sources are more than enough. Also something I wanted to clear. Somehow I believe the level of taqwa and the time's then in the olden days were amazing and less distracting respectively. Nowadays it's so easy to sin and get influenced. For example westernisation of Islam fusing the weird form of feminism in Islam etc. Islam already had the best to offer everyone before feminism even began. I fear how difficult will it be to bring up children. So with regards to polygamy don't you people think it'll be more difficult since how corrupted times are and easy it is to get influenced even some of the best one's. I mean you can't escape this constant feed of corruption and distraction. So something like polygamy Which is already a tough task to take it up in these times wouldn't it be really difficult? Since as I said before people in the olden times were just absolute gems both women and men. Just beautiful amazing people. No ego's. Focused. Strong and committed. And there were less distractions too..no CNN πŸ˜„, Hollywood etc. And no idiots getting distracted by feminism. So what are your thoughts on this my friend's? Allahafiz..may Allah give you all what he thinks is bestπŸ‘... Allahafiz lovely people

Abrar Qureshi

Jul 30, 2020 18:33

@abdullah brother it's perfectly ok..no worries πŸ‘πŸ˜

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zanat

Jul 31, 2020 01:31

@sistee julia it seems like you are a Muslim but you are opposing every little bit of it.. I didn't say a man without polygamy would do zina maybe you didn't understand it well I don't know anywy I just wanted the ladies who can actually understand my message to reflect on it because we will always blame men but in reality we should try and change ourselves first as women.. In your posts most of the time I don't understand you, you say you are looking for a husband but in reality you are here to critisize about Islamic men and you forget all men aren't the same maybe the bad experiences you had on the site made u be more careful and think that all men here are the same but you and all of us should try and put our trust in Allah and pray for a good spouse in Shaa Allah instead of wasting our energy critisizung men and vice versa its soo tiring and with the blame game it wount lead us anywhere just frustrated for nothing.. Let's all have faith in Allah if Allah wills we will find spouses here if not in Shaa Allah elsewhere maybe.. Sorry Julia if I have offended you in anyway coz I know am not perfect and nobody is I may have made a mistake somewhere unknowingly... By tha way Eid Mubarak everyone

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zanat

Jul 31, 2020 13:50

It's not a Muslim name but sometimes it happens that you revert and your documents are still with your former names so it becomes hard to change the name in documents and maybe you end up using it anyway... But whatever it is Allah knows best maybe she can answer you that coz for me I think its not a Muslim name

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 07:32

Our true love should be with Allah..it the only true love. The creation is there to support each other (with care support etc) while doing this. So, everyone aims to love Allah the most over all humans throughout their lives. This is what makes a muslim mariage slightly different from the other marriages.

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 07:41

So, i hope that everyone can love Allah the most, for their whole lives. πŸ™‚

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 07:43

If you think about it long enough..all the creations use each other one way or another...its weather or not it in a loving good way, or a harmful bad way.

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 07:44

Its just the way Allah designed it.

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 07:46

No can help but to use the creation to Worship Allah. 😊

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zanat

Aug 1, 2020 08:45

Sister Julia I don't want to argue with you but you are entitled to your own opinion.. I am actually just laughing at your comment its soo funny how can you judge your fellow women just because they accept the sunnah that Allah set for us its not like I was the one who invented polygamy.. Anywy all the best to u I don't really care about what u think about me regarding this topic but Allah knows me best

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zanat

Aug 1, 2020 08:50

And another thing the much love you are taking about is good to be given to Allah and not your fellow human being remember people are not here to live forever we are just passes by in this world so when we follow the sunnahs that were left to us we have higher chances of having a more successful life afterwards... So don't try and change religion so that it may fit your opinions but follow the religion as it is fully

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 09:34

Jealousy, coveting and envy are to be rid from the soul. When these are being felt, you are experiencing the lower nafs. Jealousy is not a healthy feeling, one must try to learn to overcome that.

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 09:34

Jealousy is not love.

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 09:38

Jealousy is about selfishness and control. That is not an element of love. I hope you can realise this in time, for your own sake.

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zanat

Aug 1, 2020 15:29

πŸ‘

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 22:58

Im over looking for a partner..im bored as well. Its become to strange to find someone this way. I like the old way much better! Trying to guage someone from a distance is not viable. So, while the virus has made things a lull for a while..im not worrying bout it!

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Deleted User

Aug 1, 2020 23:13

It seems like some women try to expose the faults of others...and some men. They go out of their way to find any little thing they can pick on. Im happy that reminder is on here a lot, so i stay away from it..it doesnt make for pleasant conversation.

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zanat

Aug 1, 2020 23:22

I choose to ignore most of the times people who hve bad vibes I prefer positivity only and if someone thinks they are so perfect with what they think I just live it at that no need to waste your energy... And I was actully bored that's why I replied to her coz I knew this would happen
@Abdullah don't mind some people it's not worth your energy.. Just pray for them and for ourselves to become better people in Shaa Allah coz anywy we ain't perfect..

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Deleted User

Aug 2, 2020 12:00

Goodbye as well..im outta here. To many tears staying on here. Bye bye.

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Deleted User

Aug 30, 2020 23:48

I have a question.
Imagine if you are not married you are already married.
You left your spouse with your mother and went to work.
After you came back from work, you found your mother and your spouse arguing, and you stopped their argument.
You asked both of them what happened, and both told you their version of the argument.
Your mother told you of the version, which shows it is your spouse's fault, and your spouse told you the version, which shows you your mother's fault. Whose side do you take, and why?

Amir

Aug 31, 2020 19:58

A 66-year old rural Canadian Mormon pastor has 27 wives and 149 children, and in every photo not only he's laughing but every wife who could fit in that photo is laughing. Now that's POLY-GAMY!

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Deleted User

Aug 31, 2020 20:04

Lol Amir

Amir

Sep 2, 2020 23:50

Wives of Ming Emperor Tianqui:

At 5,000, the names don't matter!

aryan

Sep 3, 2020 15:47

Why so many deleted profiles

Amir

Sep 3, 2020 18:07

Because they took their lady to this Italian restaurant https://youtu.be/993nvsfwvnY

 

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