As-salaamu Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuh.
I'm a Muslim convert/revert and it saddens me so much to read some of the comments made here without any regard that it is the Holy month of Ramadan where we as Muslims are supposed to be purifying our souls, hearts, mind, and body.
Ramadan is a true trial of one’s character, testing each individual on any bad habits that we may have and allowing us to purify ourselves of these behaviors. Ramadan serves as a tool for us Muslims to practice for increasing patience and self-control. It helps us to purify ourselves and build upon our character, as well as an increase in our spirituality. Furthermore, it’s an opportunity to serve to build relationships among the people of society, bringing together the rich and poor by personally delivering charity to those in need. As each individual detaches from worldly desires, we allow ourselves to become closer to Our Creator Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
I remember there was someone (since removed) who used to differ from other members to a point where the individual made comments that were untrue about our Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and his wives Radi Allahu 'anha, yet not a peep from anyone, not the "imams", nor the so-called "experts", not even from the person who started the thread who claim to be so knowledgeable about Islam yet sensitive when questioned. The day the person wrote disparaging words about our Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and his wives Radi Allahu 'anha, the thread writer did not make any comment to protest or share his/her knowledge and mind you until today that individual is still here starting topics in Forum and quick to write a sentence or two to prove someone wrong and throwing shades at women.
And then there was/is a member who has several aliases. This individual also disagreed/ disagrees with others and on many occasions used disrespectful words yet claimed to be a "Muslim" with extensive Islamic knowledge. This individual refrains from or rarely write feedbacks to threads or comments made by others that have positive tones yet quick to make one or more when the message is twisted and unprincipled or is not aligned to his/her mindset irrespective of the Quran. When this individual was or is cornered and can't make anyone agree on his/her idea, he/she then makes a final derogatory comment before deleting his/her account, and a couple of times this individual announced that he/she was leaving the site hoping to garner support instead of just be gone. In a matter of days/weeks, there's a "new" member with a different name that shows up on the Forum page with comparable behavior to the previous.
Here we are “Muslims” bashing one another, not having a break to divide us more, not even respecting the fact that it's the Holy month of Ramadan. What an example!!! Such a disappointing example we're sharing to the world, to our brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers, sons and daughters, reverts, and people who may be thinking of becoming a Muslim. Have you chosen to haughtily claim a "Muslim" by hollow words only and not in deeds? Have we forgotten that Allah Subhana Wata’ala Sees It All?
We have all the right to believe what we’re convinced by, it does not make the other person an evil person simply because he’s/she’s convinced otherwise. But that does not give us a green light to vilify others. We can discuss and raise the subject matter in a very respectful manner in a very polite way. It’s likely going to be more effective and convincing when it's presented with love, compassion, dignity, and goodness rather than putting down one another or uttering harsh words, labeling, or name-calling. What is more important to you? Is it to prove and show off to everyone that your voice is the loudest and you're the only one who is correct because you said so and they are wrong and in the process of doing so you don’t mind sinning? Have you forgotten that Allah Subhana Wata’ala has The Final Word?
Our Ummah is sadly divided, I wish we aim to be part of the solution to unite by being open to other people’s thoughts and ideas and sincerely put effort to uplift others, teach and show what Islam is all about from the main source, The Holy Quran, not from traditions and personal egoistic beliefs.
I urge each and everyone to please differ with respect. Disagreements will happen even with the best amongst people and with our families. Be polite and respectful, please.
Ask yourselves: What're your intentions? Is it to help others or is it to discredit people? Is it to make the truth be clear for the sake of Allah Subhana Wata’ala or because it feeds your ego and makes you feel high and mighty for a moment even though you're aware that your actions are wrong? We don’t need to embarrass a person, belittle them or do name-calling. The basic principle when there’s a disagreement is to give the person the chance to clarify themselves, give people the benefit of the doubt regardless of gender, race, the color of their skin, or status in life. Be open to learning new good things and aspire to do everything for the sake of Allah Subhana Wata’ala in thoughts, words, and actions.
May we strive to change our bad habits for good from this day forward not only during Ramadan but on a daily basis throughout our lives and be a positive example to those around us or communicate with be it in person or online. May Allah Subhana Wata’ala keep us on the straight path, grant us and the Ummah the best in Ad-Dunya and in Al-Akhira, forgive all our sins and accept our Duas this Holy month of Ramadan and beyond. May we make greater efforts to live life with integrity, respect, always have kindness and compassion in words and actions. May Allah Subhana Wata’ala forgives us, protect us against the oppressors, may we never be the oppressor, and may The Almighty protect us from those who do not believe. Ameen.
Thank you for reading. Salaam.