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why do some men text you when they know its imposible to marry from far?

why do some men text you when they know its imposible to marry from far?

zanat Created Sep 18, 2018 17:57
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Asalam Aleikum everybody..I hope am not offending anyone but some men have this habit of texting a girl from a different country and yet they aren't stable enough to be with them so I hope before talking to a woman from a different country u should first be sure if you can afford the whole process...

 

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Deleted User

Sep 18, 2018 17:58

oh 100% agree with u sister !!!! hat's down

zanat

Sep 19, 2018 09:29

thank you sister

Deen seeker

Sep 19, 2018 10:48

Wa alaykum assalam sister, i think they may have the ability to relocate with you, or may be they think that you can relocate with him.
Anyway it's all about what will you agree upon, or you can mention in your profile that you are not willing to relocate or to marry from foriegner man.

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Deleted User

Sep 19, 2018 12:19

i guess what she meant was, if the man aren't stable enough but he reaches us anyway, so what he expects for ? how r we gonna afford the cost to relocate either to our country or to his country ? i mean not all sisters r a career woman.

Deen seeker

Sep 19, 2018 13:00

Understood sister, thank you D.N.

zanat

Sep 19, 2018 17:51

yes I didn't mean that I dont want a foreign man what I meant is its good to know ua financial status before speaking to a foreign woman that's all nd b sure to avoid problems

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Deleted User

Sep 19, 2018 18:04

nothing is impossible unless intensions are real. regarding finance,travelling etc,,, can be discussed thats why we have this site.. nothing wrong in it... i hope my msg is clear.. this site is for communicating before reaching any final decisions.

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Deleted User

Sep 20, 2018 12:56

Better to befit within your limits, so know your limits, let not the imagination over rule you but before that know boundary of your country not the continent.

zanat

Sep 22, 2018 20:15

yes thats true musafir

anarino13

Sep 23, 2018 09:06

nothing is impossible in this life.

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Deleted User

Sep 25, 2018 11:48

Maybe he was sure at first and then he was doubtful for a reason. Stable or not, I'm 100% sure that if a man really feel comfort and very sure to relocate, he will do everything to be with the woman he loves.

daniyede

Nov 1, 2018 05:07

All fingers are not equal. Many men have the intension to meet a lady from a different country but do not have the finance to fund the travel, so also many women as well. For me, if you are convinced that the man or woman loves you and truly wants to be with you (NOT FOR FINANCIAL REASONS) you can assist him or her if you have the financial capability

ally

Nov 2, 2018 16:28

it is obvius a person from another country for marriage u would be talking about how to maintain another person, his or her visa etc

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Deleted User

Nov 6, 2018 08:58

I have had the same experience. I have intially messaged and asked over and over again if they are ok with it and they say yes and gives false hope. Honestly some of the muslim guys are unbelievable. Many are really insensitive to other peoples feelings. Soon or later they too will come with a similar experience and that will be the day they will realize what it is to hurt someone.

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Deleted User

Nov 9, 2018 09:18

some men who discuss with sisters from other countries are usually unemployed and most likely looking for a way to get to another country. some are just delusional. they don't even know what they want. some are far away, the first contact they say this is my whatsapp number send me your picture!!! you can see their intentions clearly. misuse of time and energy. if people are in same country it's good because parents are also involved in marriage process. but be very very very careful with people in online sites looking for marriage especially men. they are many psycho and mentally unstable people online. many scammers also. many others want indecent videos and haram s*x. a few men are seriously looking for marriage partners. very few unfortunately. but many sisters are usually genuine because a girl is sort after by the man...not the woman who goes looking for a man.

zanat

Nov 10, 2018 03:48

that's true sister halima..we all need to be careful

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Deleted User

Nov 12, 2018 19:49

Surah Al-Mumtahina, Verse 1:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَتَّخِذُوا عَدُوِّي وَعَدُوَّكُمْ أَوْلِيَاءَ تُلْقُونَ إِلَيْهِم بِالْمَوَدَّةِ وَقَدْ كَفَرُوا بِمَا جَاءَكُم مِّنَ الْحَقِّ يُخْرِجُونَ الرَّسُولَ وَإِيَّاكُمْ أَن تُؤْمِنُوا بِاللَّهِ رَبِّكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ خَرَجْتُمْ جِهَادًا فِي سَبِيلِي وَابْتِغَاءَ مَرْضَاتِي تُسِرُّونَ إِلَيْهِم بِالْمَوَدَّةِ وَأَنَا أَعْلَمُ بِمَا أَخْفَيْتُمْ وَمَا أَعْلَنتُمْ وَمَن يَفْعَلْهُ مِنكُمْ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ سَوَاءَ السَّبِيلِ

O you who believe! do not take My enemy and your enemy for friends: would you offer them love while they deny what has come to you of the truth, driving out the Apostle and yourselves because you believe in Allah, your Lord? If you go forth struggling hard in My path and seeking My pleasure, would you manifest love to them? And I know what you conceal and what you manifest; and whoever of you does this, he indeed has gone astray from the straight path.
(English - Shakir)

via iQuran

muhammadbey

Nov 13, 2018 23:02

I see that the issue could be that so many women across the world are poorly educated on this site. And can not see the potential of some men. And many women on this site are closed minded and stuck in their own ways of non communication and religious myths.

Have a great day

muhammadbey

Nov 13, 2018 23:02

I see that the issue could be that so many women across the world are poorly educated on this site. And can not see the potential of some men. And many women on this site are closed minded and stuck in their own ways of non communication and religious myths.

Have a great day

Bolarin fb

Jan 15, 2019 17:38

If this site isn't benefits anybody let the admin close it down

Selma

Feb 7, 2019 00:38

Hmmmm say it again ooohhh my sister it's so annoying and thought provoking

no one

Feb 7, 2019 15:48

brother Muhammadbey, really, the peoblem is just u r not matched to anyone in here, it's just the compatibility matter n that's the common problem u'll face either on this site or in real life, so, by saying that women across the world R POORLY EDUCATED ON THIS SITE, sorry but u're talking shi* right there, i mean have u even conducted a survey to ask each of us women abt our education or our accomplishment ?, i need to state this out cz u need to SIMPLY RESPECT someone else, n by saying someone like poorly educated, it's showing us that u're just no better than the people u're talking abt, tho in ur real life u'd meet someone with low intelligence, YOU CAN'T SAY THAT THEY R POORLY EDUCATED OR SIMPLY AS STUPID, that's one way to respect someone else. n related to this struggle that we're having with, it's a personal choice, to decide whom we actually interested in, how will we reach him, n simply what things that r compatible between us, n these r called "preferences", it's not wrong to have preferences, as long as it it makes sense, they help us to get somehow a certainty for some reasons, n there's nothing wrong about it. cz marrying someone is NOT like u call out someone across the world n ask her to marry u, once u've had enough with her, u dump her away, n all that problematic possibility. that's why, we need to set boundaries, preferences, to try to find our compatibility.

no one

Feb 7, 2019 15:51

tbh idk how ur thought process is, but seems like evryone here who is facing difficulty from finding a spouse on this site always tend to blame the site n that it has to be shut down, or whatever, really tho, this is just a platform for u to look for a spouse, if u don't get anyone interested to u, maybe ur fate is out there, she can be ur own neighbor, ur own old friend, or someone outside ur hometown, so, it's pretty nonsense if we choose to blame the website, or any of that. it's us, not the website.

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AnotherTraveler

Feb 8, 2019 23:15

I have seen cases where the girl paid for the guy and they really loved each other but at the end the marriage didn’t work out, and I think it’s because the guy wasn’t “challenged” enough. Trust me, I believe if a couple loves each other they can do anything but we have to remember that men and women are different. A woman doesn’t mind a man who’s desperate for her. Actually that makes a man more attractive for a woman, but on the contrary a man doesn’t like it or find it attractive when a woman is chasing him. A man needs some sort of challenge to get the girl he wants even if their bond is strong. At least this is my observation 😁

Idris

Feb 11, 2019 16:35

Asalamun alaykum, my opinion on the topic, I see nothing bad in a man text a woman from another country or vice versa if there is sincerity in their communication and both parties rhythm. The problem is if the male is unstable financially probably because of economic crisis or poor employment opportunities in his country then if the lady is buoyant enough to support him with relocating to looking for for greener pastures then she should. Only that scams are much on internet, you don't know who is real.

 

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